- Allison Hare
"Never rely on a man for your money"
My mother beat this into my head as a teenage girl.
My mother's words have sent me into a life of workaholism, relentless hustle, and never enough-ness (is that a word?).
I go deeper into this in my newest solocast that released today.
I'm trying a new experiment I couldn't wait to share with you.
Being a life-long spaz, I've tried a lot of helpful things to release some of the energy.
Walking meditations, dancing, any fitness classes, endless coaching programs, walks with friends, and sometimes getting massages, reiki healing , and blogging, too. (oh hey!).
What I've been avoiding...if Captain Obvious can weigh in, is standing still.
SO, I am trying a new method that I won't call meditation. I won't call it sitting still. I won't call it mindfulness or any other self-helpy jargon.
Because it's something else for me.
I'm prioritizing time every day to be quiet and notice.
Quiet and noticing.
That's it. No time minimum or maximum time.
Let my thoughts race and just notice without judgment until my body starts to self-soothe. And start to replenish.
I found wearing this which you can heat and gives an instant trigger to relax.
And as we are in the throes once again of another holiday season full of spendy spending for the sake of "giving?," I'm thinking about the stories I am unwinding about money.
Money and how it weaves its way through every single bit of self-worth we have and values we place on ourselves and each other in our relationships.
So I am kicking off a brand new series on money and relationships where we are going to unwind it together.
As always, it's going to be a different conversation that you would expect.
No advice on how to become Financially Independent and Retire Early (FIRE) or how to invest better. Lots of other podcasts doing a great job of this.
But rewiring the stories we've been told about money and how to remove mental blocks that might be stopping you from earning more.
Listen to this personal solocast closing out the belonging series and ushering in the money and relationships series.
P.S. Long live Alanis.
P.P.S. If you've got kids, this is THE coolest ever.
P.P.P.S. Are you doing New Year's Resolutions in 2022? I couldn't even tell you what mine were for 2021 but I definitely wrote something down. 🤦🏻♀️